Having the right mindset is one of the first things I cover in ClearSkin Nutrition because it is, in my opinion, the most important thing to have control over.
The way that we choose to think determines the quality of our life over everything else. There are depressed millionaires and there are fulfilled beach bums.
Clothing, haircuts and material things are what we are conditioned to think will give us happiness. The truth is that happiness will never come from external sources. Happiness comes from within and is very intricately linked to our self-esteem.
This doesn’t mean to not get haircuts or dress your best or have nice things, but understand that you are not dependent upon those things for your happiness. I like to think of the things I own as things that simply add on to my awesomeness.
They’re cool, but they aren’t what makes me.
Of course, acne is different.
Acne is literally perceived as a flaw.
How can you can be confident with acne?
It’s almost impossible to have high self-esteem with acne… Or is it?
What Is Self-Esteem?
Self-esteem is a manifestation of our beliefs and perceptions, not of reality. We can use this to our advantage. Instead of reinforcing a negative belief, change the words you say to reflect the belief that you want. For example, never, ever look in the mirror and say “I’m ugly” or any other negative talk. Instead, repeat “I’m awesome” or “I am so good looking” or “I love myself.” Repeat these phrases daily and it will retrain your belief system to think of yourself in a more positive light. Say these things every time you look in the mirror, even if you don’t feel like it’s true. You do this, and after a while things like a little acne don’t matter as much. You become more outgoing, carefree and open. Set reminders in your phone that tell you you’re amazing. Audibly say out loud how awesome you are every day.
Another trick is to look at only the clear parts of your skin and say how your skin is clear when you are looking at that particular clear part. Don’t focus on the pimples. If you have a few zits on your forehead but your cheeks are clear, look at your cheeks and say how clear they are. This is another way of always looking at the positive.
Reframe Acne And Your Limits
With acne it’s hard to always be cheery because we have a constant reminder of what is perceived as a “flaw” on our skin every time we look in the mirror. Let’s try to view acne another way. Understand that it clearly sucks, but also understand that you can clear your skin, or at least the majority of your skin issues. Set no limits in your life, whether it comes to what skin you want to have or what career you want or how much money you want to make or how many lives you want to touch. Bruce Lee said: “If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” I love this quote. I don’t believe in limits. There is always a way to get better and improve.
We have to have it in our minds that we will get clear skin and be the healthy person we know we can be. There should be no doubt. It would be even better if we trick our minds into thinking that we’re already clear, but I understand that is really hard, especially with severe acne. Just remember, there is always a solution to any problem. And a problem is only a problem if we think it’s a problem. Addict yourself to what is good about you. Our thoughts are one of the few things we have control over in this world. Learn to master them.
I really want you to have an abundant mindset where you know and understand how awesome you are because I’ve heard of people who had very bad acne, got rid of it and yet still were depressed. I know that acne seems like it’s personal because it is so closely attached to us, literally on our bodies, but we can choose how we want to respond to it. Respond in a manner that is rational, reasonable and positive. Even with my severe acne I still had some-what of a life. I even managed to get a girlfriend when I felt like my acne was moderate. I really think that acne has a much smaller impact on people’s decisions regarding relationships than what people think. Yeah, if you have severe acne, it’ll be a big issue. But if you just have mild acne, don’t believe that it prevents you from certain things.
So in concerns to mental state and self-esteem, read books on the topic, watch YouTube videos about it, but most importantly, take steps to improve your self-esteem if it’s low. When it comes to knowledge, if it is not applied, there is no point.
The last paragraph bears repeating. Read books and watch videos on how to live a more fulfilling life, then take action on the ideas you hear and read about. Don’t just take a little bit of action. But focus on something that you believe will greatly improve your life and take massive action with it. Do it every day. Make improving that aspect of your life your mission. Constantly subject yourself to information that will improve your life. Listen to people like Robin Sharma, Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard and others. Become inspired and act on that inspiration.
What Really Is Reality?
Here’s something to think about… Our outward reality is a reflection of our internal beliefs. Where we are lacking in our lives is due to an internal belief that we aren’t capable of achieving what we want. Take a look at the different aspects of your life and see which ones you might be lacking in. Look at your health, education, career, finances, creativity, spirituality, joy, social life, relationships, home environment, home cooking, physical activity, and see if you can improve upon any of them.
For me, a few years ago I needed to give more priority to my health (because of my skin and digestive problems) and my relationships (I never had a girlfriend), so I put 100 percent of my effort into improving those aspects of my life. I read books and bought programs on both topics, and now I am healthier and have been in a few great relationships. Things like relationships, education, physical activity and spiritual practice are all incredibly important. They nourish us the same way food does. When we have more aspects of our lives handled, we instill a greater confidence in ourselves. It is up to each and every one of us to take control of the things we can control, such as the food we put in our mouths, the physical activity we do, the actions we take and how we view situations.
So far there has been a lot of talk about raising self esteem. I now want to give you 6 actionable steps you can take to raise your self-esteem. While reading these things, ask yourself if you are actively practicing these things every day. If you aren’t, write them down and make an effort to do them. Practice them over and over again, every day. Experience true change by ingraining things into your life.
7 Practical Steps To Raise Self-Esteem
Stand tall and have good posture.
One of my favorite TED talks is about how the way we move and physically represent ourselves through posture literally affects our brains and emotions. Most people think they cave in their chest, slouch their shoulders and look down because they are sad or anxious or depressed. But what if someone is sad or anxious or depressed because they cave in their chest, slouch their shoulders and look down instead of having good posture? Our physical movements and postures send off signals in our brain that tell us what emotional state we’re in. So stand tall. Look ahead. Straighten your back when you sit. Plant your feet on the ground. Strut. Walk with purpose. Don’t be afraid to take up space in this world! Your body invigorates your mind. Check in with yourself while you are sitting or standing at your desk. Are you sitting up straight, shoulders back, abdominals in? Is your head in alignment with your spine? Check your posture routinely to keep on top of it. It will change your mind and help prevent injury down the road.
- I want to give one big tip that really hammers in how important posture is. Posture is a form of body language. When people meet with you or listen to you, more than 50 percent of their impression is formed from your body language. The other majority comes from the tonality of your voice. Is your voice strong or do you waver and talk quietly? Only around 7 percent of the impression you give when you meet someone has to do with the words you say. Become conscious of how you carry yourself.
Find your style and dress awesome. Wear clothes that fit you well and aren’t baggy or too tight. If necessary, get your clothes fitted by a seamstress. You don’t even have to have expensive clothes. But you do need to buy clothes that fit you or compliment your body. I’m very tall and used to be extremely skinny. Many things I bought were too loose for me, so I took a couple things to the seamstress and got the clothing to fit my body better. It seriously made a world of difference. How you dress can have an impact on how you feel and on how you perceive yourself. Feel confident about what you wear and it will ripple into feeling confident in other parts of your life.
Move your body.
Exercise releases endorphins, which are those feel good hormones. When these hormones get released, they send healing chemicals throughout your body. Sex is something else that releases opiates. You can also hug someone for 20 minutes to get the same effect. The same thing goes for smiling and laughing. Here’s the kicker: Even if you fake these things (maybe not the sex part), these health-promoting hormones get released. Even if you fake smiling, you might know that you aren’t really smiling, but your brain doesn’t, and after a few moments that fake smile will turn into a real one. As part of my morning routine, I smile immediately after waking up. This helps to set the intention for the day ahead on a positive note. I write down in my journal to smile when I wake up before I go to bed in order to remind me.
It’s probably safe to say that there are more people with acne who are introverted rather than extroverted. I used to be the same way. That was until I decided that what I wanted to say was important and has value. I stopped caring what others thought of me so much. Stop trying to impress others or live up to other people’s standards. Find your voice and express yourself in whatever way you can. When you are in groups, if you think you have a good idea, why not share it? If you want to say something to someone, why not say it? You matter. If your thoughts aren’t received well, then you’ll be in the exact situation you were in previously. If it does go well, then that’s a plus.
Be thankful for everything you have. Understand that there are millions of people out there that are unfortunate and live very, very oppressed lives. Whatever you might be going through probably is nothing compared to some of the things others are going through in this world. Realize that you have so much to be thankful for. When I used to complain about my acne or health problems, I would start to think about how there’s people who have to travel 20 miles a day by foot just to get clean water. I thought about how I’m actually incredibly lucky and fortunate to live where I live and have access to the things I have access to. Then I would just laugh and feel better.
- You can always find something to be grateful for. It can be as simple as the fact that you woke up today. It doesn’t have to be anything grandeur, although we should all be thankful for the special things in our lives. Having gratitude in your life focuses your mind on the positive. It shifts your attention to what you do have rather than what you don’t have. I try to write down 3 things that I’m grateful for every day in my journal before I go to bed. I call them my “3 G’s” and they are the first things that I write in my journal at night.
Write down your victories.
Large or small, write them out. We’re so quick to condemn ourselves, yet hold our tongue when it comes to praising the things we accomplish. Motivate yourself to continue on your path by writing down the things you did right and the things you accomplished every night in a journal before you go to bed. It could be as simple as “went to the gym,” “cooked an awesome meal,” or “read 20 pages of a book.” Whatever you do, write it down to help motivate you to do more.
Be out in nature.
Spend more time outdoors. Reconnecting with nature can create more balance and harmony in your life, and it can be a form of self-care that lets you know how important you are. Go barefoot to get a greater connection to the earth. Being barefoot on the sand/grass/earth grounds you and sends more negative ions from the earth through your body. These help us to be more in touch with nature and to reconnect with our more primitive human aspects.
These tips will help instill a greater confidence in yourself, which is better than having clear skin in my opinion. But obviously we still want clear skin, so we will address one of the biggest biochemical factors regarding skin issues – blood sugar imbalances – in future posts.
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